Former GQ reporter Rupert Myers writes in ES of help from Samaritans after media interest around his actions towards women

Former GQ writer Rupert Myers has spoken out about the “overwhelming experience” of being publicly named as someone who behaved inappropriately towards women.

Publisher Conde Nast sacked Myers after being made aware of allegations against him in October.

Writing in the Evening Standard today he said: “When a woman spoke out about her discomfort at my attempt to kiss her years ago outside a bar, I was shocked. My recollection differs in some respects, but I understand now that what I did upset her.

“A number of women described on social media how I had behaved towards them. I apologised publicly, and I stand by my apology: I propositioned women and made them feel uncomfortable through my inappropriate behaviour.”

Talking about the impact the furore had over him, he said: “I am not at all comfortable admitting this publicly, but when my life became the focus of social media and news interest, it was an overwhelming experience. I want to express my gratitude to the Samaritans, and a woman whose name I don’t know who volunteers for them and answered a telephone call from me. Beyond public expression of thanks I have no other hope of reaching out to her.

“If you ever find yourself questioning what — if anything — you have to live for, I would encourage you to call them. It is painful for me to admit this, but is no overstatement to say that a few close friends and the careful patience of that volunteer who offered to stay with me on the phone brought me back from the edge.

“None of this is easy to talk about, and I have always been a relatively private person, but the magnitude of the response, the intensity of the media, the ongoing fury of the internet, and the loss of a job I loved have left a permanent impact.”

And he noted how quickly the focus around inappropriate conduct has moved away from journalist towards Westminster.

He said: “Many of my peers will know stories about colourful broadcasters, prominent writers or commissioning editors who drop freelance women who don’t reciprocate their feelings…

“Media organisations focusing on the sexuality of Kevin Spacey and writers paid to produce hit jobs on women who speak out are just two examples of why it matters that — whatever the failings of social media — traditional media has not paid itself the scrutiny that it deserves.

The fee for the article has been donated to The Samaritans.

The Myers piece appears to have been given a cool reception on Twitter.

Guardian writer Suzanne Moore said: “Go away Rupert Myers with this manipulative bullshit. Incidentally I do believe there is a way back and room for remorse BUT this in Gideon’s rag is not it.”

Mollie Goodfellow, editorial assistant at Sky News and co-founder of the Words By Women Awards, said on Twitter: “He [Myers] writes about how he struggled after the allegations and spoke to the Samaritans, and I’m sorry that he felt that way, but this conversation space shouldn’t be taken up by harassers imo.”

She added: “Women, women who have been harassed/assaulted, have been saying this. Why does he need to say it.”

Adam Bienkov of UK Business Insider said: “Poor Rupert Myers, who spent an entire month in the wilderness before being commissioned by a major newspaper again.”

 

 

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2 thoughts on “Former GQ reporter Rupert Myers writes in ES of help from Samaritans after media interest around his actions towards women”

  1. WHY will Tory Govt not reply to us public on donated cash?

    “I have been tweeting most Tory Govt M.P.s live in H.O.C.
    For the last months or two.
    Including front bench Minister like Sajid Javid- Andrea Leadson-Ms May
    The question “I put to them all was where is the Grenfell fire victims cash?
    The two big public donated cash amounts
    First when Tower blocks were still alight,
    (Possible Millions of pound of public money)
    Second Amount a large one too this was from a football match to help for the fire victims, again a public donated cash
    (Problem is it has all disappeared into thin- air)
    We believe the Tory Govt could have it and are using it to keep the family in Hotels like chickens in a coup.
    The money was public donated for the Grenfell fire victims only to rebuild they live after the fire.
    Not for Govt to use or any County Council in that area of Grenfell tower fire. To appropriate and use elsewhere in the country.
    Like could “have been used as a bribe to D.U.P. party the money for them just convenient appeared when cash for Grenfell fire victim disappeared in a puff of smoke.
    We have had no reply from any Troy Govt member or Ministers or Prime Minister Ms May, why we ask our self!
    Could our finding hold some truth and Tory Govt had to cash all along but spent it. Therefore, Govt will not reply to us,
    Public on this matter any of them now.
    If they do not have the cash we asked them to find it and pay out the fire victims, with the public donated cash, we all put into the pot in this country and form outside this country
    To rebuild the Grenfell fire victims lives for the better.

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